A friend of mine earlier this year described the parenting dichotomy in a way that’s stuck in my head ever since – “The days are long, but the years are short.”

One of my favorite parenting podcasts is literally called “The longest shortest time” which basically says the same thing.  When the kids won’t eat what you cooked and won’t listen to anything you say on a Tuesday evening, you can’t wait to put them to bed and pour yourself a drink.  A moment later you can’t believe they’re so big, getting so old.  These precious years are going far too fast.

Whether you have kids or not, if you feel like this year has flown by, you’re not alone.  Some days drag on forever, some stressful moments seem to linger and eat at us as if time is standing still.

And yet, here we are in December again.  Did you miss anything?

I love the fall, and love the holiday season.  But the past few years, I feel like they fly by without having appreciated and enjoyed them enough.  A few more emails, a little more work, a little less time enjoying the leaves and the lights and the crisp mornings and #Pac12AfterDark.

I struggle to find the right balance in my life constantly.  I’ve traveled far less this year intentionally to spend more time at home and with my family, and that has been a success.  But there have also been too many nights when I was needlessly immersed in something “urgent” on my phone when I could have been more immersed in focused time with my kids, or my wife, or even just my own silence.

I don’t have a solution for this challenge, but my goal moving forward is to be more intentional.

To be more intentional about getting work done and moving on.  More intentional about doing what’s urgent and important, and not what’s simply urgent.

To be more intentional about the things I care about outside of work – family, faith, football and lots more.  Even a random Monday night with a “take your brain off and lose yourself for 90 minutes movie” is time well spent.

In my 20’s and 30’s, I felt like I had forever in front of me.  Now that I’m in my 40’s, it’s easy to start wondering just how many Christmases, how many Super Bowls, how many 4th of July parades are left.  Hopefully several dozen.

But as I wrap up this year and start to set goals and resolutions for the New Year, my objective is to be more intentional.

More intentional about work, but also more intentional about Mondays.

Easier said than done perhaps, but what’s your Monday?  What do you want your Monday to be?  Be intentional, because it’ll be Tuesday – and December – before you know it.

  • Beth Heinz

    Oh, Matty H! Love you more!!!